Marriage

Convo with God in the Sauna

Happy New Year!

 

I hope you are as excited and expectant as I am for all that God has in store for 2018! Upon reflection of where I've been, where I am and where I'm going, I came across an old blog post I wrote 4 years ago that I felt I needed to share with someone today. I have a strong sense that there is a lovely soul out there that is recovering from the wounding of a heartbreak that could benefit from reading this message.

 

As I sat in the sauna (aka my "Prayer Box") at the gym one evening deeply focused in prayer, the stirring in my soul stopped completely which enabled me to hear the clear whisper of God's voice! I have still been wrestling with Him to find the answers to the questions, "Why did we break up? Why can't he see the errors of his thinking? Why is he lying to himself and others? Why doesn't he want me like he said he did?"

 

Here is our conversation:

God:  "Heather, why can't you see that it's BECAUSE I love you that I have removed him from your life? Don't you remember praying to me and asking me to intervene if the relationship was against my will? I tried telling you many times. You didn't want to listen. But I was still there, loving you right through your disobedience. Heather, stop beating yourself up. Stop mourning the loss. Focus instead on MY will. I'm not upset with you for nagging me over this because I understand that you don't know what you DON'T know. You can't see what I have in store for you. But trust ME, I have heard your prayers. I know the desires in your heart. Believe in me and FOLLOW me and I will lead you to a greater blessing than you can even fathom. I'm working for ya, girl. I have my hand of protection over you and will continue to intervene in big ways if you begin to embark on a relationship that will harm you."
Me: "But God, I loved him with my WHOLE heart."
God: "That was exactly the problem. There was no room for Me anymore. You began to call him your 'anchor,' don't you remember? I am your TRUE anchor, Heather. Your relationship together was not honoring Me and you weren't leading each other to come to know Me better. He was a distraction, Heather...and you tried to play My role of God in his life. That wasn't your place." 
Me: "God, why does it seem like all the good in me is overlooked by so many? In fact, it seems as though (especially lately) that my good deeds that have the purest intentions are somehow completely flipped around on me and I'm under attack with harsh accusations and critical judgments? What the heck is up with that?!"
God: "Like I said, I'm protecting you, Heather. The flaming arrows that you are experiencing will not harm you if you continue to turn your heart and mind toward me. The closer you get to me, the harder the enemy will try to deceive you and hunt you down. He's going to use people in your life that are far from Me to try to pull you down with them. TRUST in Me. Place your identity in ME, stop being so concerned with what other people think and say about you. That's not your burden to bear. Let Me worry about them." 

 

WOW. WOW. WOW. 

GOD IS SOOOOOOOOOO GOOD!!! 

I cannot even tell you how rested and peaceful I have felt ever since our talk in the sauna that night! 

Overflowing with gratitude for His love, grace and protection!!! 

 

The harsh life lessons that God allowed me to go through in 2013 such as hardship, loss, deceit, false friends, unmet hopes and brokenness are received and behind me. I come to you now as a conqueror and a warrior woman in training!  God truly carried me through the darkest moments by shining His  Heavenly light in my soul. Although I had chosen a sinfilled, windy road and am still experiencing some pains associated with living such a life, the reality is, God has chosen ME and has been faithful and loving and provided JUST the amount of strength I needed to get through to the next day! 

 

 

2018 is going to be the best year YET! Believe it. Receive it. In Jesus' name!

 

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On January 1, 2014  I got this tattoo to represent the wonderful reminder of:

  • Hebrews 6:19, "We have this hope as an ANCHOR for the soul, firm and secure."
  • As well as 1 Corinthians 13:13, "Three things will always remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love." 
 

Are you in the process of heart-recovery from a breakup? Need someone to talk to and pray with? Please don't hesitate to send me a message as I'd be honored to walk you through this. Perhaps someone you know is in this battle right now...do them a favor and share this encouraging word with them! 

Sow A Seed

The Why & How of Adam & Eve

 

There are some amazing resources out there to help us understand men, women, and relationships. However, I have found the most helpful resource to really grasp the intention of God’s heart for relationships (and ultimately, marriage), is The Ultimate Life Guide–that is the Holy Bible. It is here that we begin to understand God's heart in creation. We can also see the intention of relationships through God’s Divine matchmaking abilities.

This blog is Part 1 of the Relationship Series. Stay tuned each Monday for subsequent blogs.


Isn’t it interesting that God didn’t create the Adam & Eve in the same way? Let’s rewind to the beginning and take a look at the creation story of Adam and Eve:

 

{The WHY & HOW of Adam}

(Genesis 2:5-6) Now no shrub had yet appeared on the earth and no plant had yet sprung up, for the Lord God had not sent rain on the earth and there was no one to work the ground, but streams came up from the earth and watered the whole surface of the ground.

The Why = To reveal His character and likeness on earth

 

(Genesis 2:7THEN the Lord God formed a man from the dust of the ground and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life, and the man became a living being.

The How = From Dust


Embracing the fact that Adam and Eve were created differently may disrupt our worldview that men and women were created equal. However, if we push past a possible disruptive feeling and seek to understand God’s intention behind the creation of the first man and woman we will open up to a greater level of understanding about the beautiful interdependence between male and female. 


{The WHY & HOW of Eve}

Eve, however was created FOR Adam as we can see in  Genesis 2:18“It is not good for the man to be alone. I shall create a suitable helper for him.” 

The Why = For Adam

She was also created FROM Adam as described in Genesis 20:21-22“So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man’s ribs and then closed up the place with flesh. Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.”

The How = From Adam

 

 

Throughout Scripture we can see God’s beautiful love story unfold. Therefore, as men and women, we ought to trust that God is the Ultimate Matchmaker and surrender our hearts to His perfect plan and timing.

  • Men: Do you trust that God loves you so much that He made (prepared, fashioned, appointed) a suitable helper for you?
  • Women: Will you accept that God is developing you into the suitable helper for your (future) spouse? Will you trust that, in His perfect timing, God will place you in the path of your “Adam”?
 

Whether you’re walking through the season of singleness, or you’re in a relationship and trying to navigate how to effectively do so in a God-glorifying way, I believe we can all turn to the Word of God and learn everything we need about modeling God-glorifying relationships. After all, He is the Author of Love and the Creator of marriage!

(Published on Elevate 2 Great October 5, 2015)

How has this teaching impacted your view on the purpose and plan of male and female and God's creation of marital union?